We have all heard the saying that goes ” actions speak louder than words”. That is a saying that gets repeated so often that in many ways it has lost it’s meaning. There are words that convey actions but those can be hollow. Actions on the other had can say more about a person than every word ever written. The thing is there is this notion that actions have to be some big grand act when in reality it’s the small actions that can have the most meaning. You see when we are interacting with someone there is one true fact. That fact is that we really have no idea what someone truly is dealing with in their lives? Not one person on this planet has the same DNA or life experiences. One of the truly sad things that has happened is that often members of the opposite sex are afraid to reach out a helping hand in fear that they may be accused of something! That is so sad and it’s only getting worse. So people are forced to pause a second to calculate if their actions could be misconstrued? Actions can have unexpected consequences but taking that risk may be just the help that person needs.
For those who don’t know this is not my first blog. The first one lasted over a decade and frankly it had gotten massive in nature and had too many bad memories. Then yesterday I saw a blog post from a blogger that I first started reading over a decade ago. Then this morning I saw another one. Old blog friends are truly like a warm blanket on a cold winters night.
There is a growing trend and I think it’s a good one. The reality is like many things in it’s beginning social media was good. Now it has turned into a total nightmare. Just think of all the damage it has done. One of the biggest issues is that with all of the social media garbage in people’s lives many people have lost the art of simple conversation. It’s not just the younger folks for there are as many ” adults” that have the same problem. The fact is at the start of each day we think we have 86,000 seconds ( unless your demise happens) the problem in many ways self inflicted. Then you have companies like Kroger that allow their employees to look at their electrical devices while they are supposed to be working! Life is complicated enough without added garbage like social media in our lives.
The topic of skill sets in my life goes back to a Facebook exchange my younger sister and I had in which she informed me that I didn’t have the skill set to be her brother and a part of her life. What does that mean? Who knows? It has become somewhat of a joke through the years. I don’t know if there is a place where you go to take a test to qualify as her brother? So we haven’t communicated since and that is sad. I also have no communication with my older brother and that too is sad.
What are skill sets anyway? That question is open to some interpretation depending on your life experiences and they vary and change through the years. It is necessary that they do change because if they didn’t you would not be able to handle the different dynamics in your life. Just take a second and look back at your life and what you will discover is that in your current situation you did not have the skill set to handle them decades ago. It took years of being beat up by life to get you to this point. The tricky thing is as your skill set changes how do you incorporate your new set of skills?