As we go through life and become set in our ways it becomes second nature to say no to someone or idea that you never do or would never do. Unless it’s against the law many are quick to say no. That often can be a huge mistake but of course you wouldn’t know because you were too quick to say no. That offer of help could be the answer to the current situation in life and beyond. I think in our culture today we get so caught up in boundaries that both sexes forget how to be humans with all our of our warts. We meet remarkable people every single day who offer to help with no agenda and we all get to quick to say no. The important thing is to always remember that you have no idea who someone else knows.
Day: July 18, 2019
In a conversation with a bright and delightful woman today the subject of core values came up in regards to when things reach critical mass. When that happens is NOT the time to be looking for yours! A core value system is something that can take decades to develop. Much of it is based on what your belief system may or may not before that before critical mass hits. One of the things that complicates things is when you don’t have one and the critical mass hits those around you have no idea how you will react. For those few close to me know that is not an issue! I am not in a popularity contest when it comes to making tough decisions. I make them and simply move on! One of the big mistakes people make is they go back and second guess themselves repeatedly. That brings up the following question? Why? Nothing you do at that point will change the decision you had made previously. It’s important to understand that you and you alone are the only person on this planet of some 7 billion that have the same life experience and DNA that you do. You are uniquely you and only you can decide what core belief system you have.
When most people think of caregivers they have some “traditional” concept which very often is wrong. Having fought this fight for around 4 years now ( and all those people who said they would help being long gone) there is one thing that gets to be more and more of an issue. That issue is simply having contact with another woman. I am not talking about having an affair but just someone who will listen that doesn’t have an agenda. The fact is we never thought my wife would still be here and would have died a long time ago. It is a miracle she is and that is a great thing. As a human being we all have needs and desires. My late father started talking to a woman he had dated in high school but my grandmother had run her off. Decades later the came back together. He always said that all she would do is listen and not sit in judgement of him. I didn’t understand it then but some decades later I do. My wife has said to me that she hopes a woman will come into my life that will treat me as well as I have treated her. Will that happen? I have no idea. I do know that this constant feeling of being alone is no fun at all.