As we age we are faced with this undeniable fact. You are some point will face the toughest day of your life and that is when you lose the one that means everything to you. The only way you don’t is if you go first. Of course there is no way of knowing for which ways things will turn out. So what do you do? In theory you can make all of these plans and play the what if game but often is fruitless. I am not saying that some general plans don’t need to be made in advance because failure to do so is being totally irresponsible.
As a culture in the United States we really don’t talk about death much until something happens then it’s rush, rush and rush some more. That is when emotional and costly mistakes are made. I recall when handling my father’s death how many people became experts on what I should do. I finally got tired of it and said ” You people won’t recall any of this in 2 weeks anyway.” It got to the point that I just wanted it over so I could go home. That was over 10 years ago and I am sure those people don’t recall hardly any of it.
In the end if you don’t have a core belief system going into the worst day of your life you will be doomed.