Month: June 2019

Friends And Relationships Slowing Fading Away

One of the most disheartening things about getting old is that friends and relationships slowly fade away. While walking a town square and shaking hands with one of my most trusted advisors through the years a certain sadness filled my heart. This man who I have shared countless memories and some of my most troubled times with is slowly fading away. When my obligations require me to move on with my day all I really want to do is hang out with him. We both know that these times together are getting further and further in between and there really isn’t much that can be done about it. This man has taught me so much about life and his wisdom has help guide me through this thing we call life and frankly I probably took our relationship for granted together for way to long. I need to make sure he knows before it’s too late what a difference he has made in my life.

The Reality Of Living Far Away From Loved Ones

As I look ahead to the upcoming week and what events that are awaiting me the biggest one is my mothers birthday and i will be around 300 miles away. Will this be her last birthday? Of course there is no way of knowing for sure but I suspect it will. When she lost her husband ( my stepfather who was a great man) a few months back she was in the hospital. We talk on a regular basis but it’s still not the same thing as me being there. The odds are I will never see her again dead or alive. As difficult as that reality is my first obligation is to my wife and her well being.

A few years back in a e-mail chat with one of my cousins who was contemplating moving from St. Louis to Jacksonville I made it very clear to her that the single biggest price you pay for being so far away is that when your parents have health issues you can’t be there. It is really that simple but also complicated. In the end for me it comes down to whose name is on my marriage certificate and my mother’s is not. That doesn’t mean it won’t be tough because it will be and I will get through it.

What Does That Mean In Real Terms?

As we go through life we repeatedly hear things over and over and never give them a second thought. So I have put together a list of things or phrases and thougts that really makes one wonder.

1.) closure

2.) great in bed ( is there a checklist somewhere on that one?)

3.) A phone call when someone asked you ” what are you doing?” My sister asked me that early one morning and my response was ” I was making out with someone but I decided to stop so I could talk to you”

4.) When someone has just lost a loved one and someone asked them how are they feeling.

4.) Crime shows in which the victim is always treated like they were some great person of virtue.

5.) I know how how you feel? Unless you have the exact same dna and life experiences you don’t

6.) When a t.v. show says something is “live” as opposed to dead.

7.) the word ” don’t”

8.) Those who clam they can predict the future!

9.) Young married men that think they are in charge!

10.) Married men who are dumb enough to try to get between their wife and her hair dresser. ( that is called a rookie mistake)

Eastern Tennessee And Eastern Missouri And The Marriage Of Two People

On a warm summer day in eastern tennessee a child was born. ( no not that child) Some 10 years later another child was born on a cold winter’s day in eastern missouri. ( definitely not the child!) While one was already on their life’s journey the other was just starting theirs. Some 37 years later these worlds would come together in ways that could never be expected. While one was going through college, getting married the other was just trying to make their way through a world in which they were never comfortable. As the years these 2 worlds were slowing coming together yet neither knew the other one was even on this planet. One had moved to another city some 300 miles from their hometowns while the other just fought through life. Finally one got divorced and the other had pretty much had come the realization that they would never get married. What changed? God intervened.

As one of them was walking out of a christian bookstore they saw a singles newspaper. (yes folks that was long before e-harmony) They were working nights alone and was looking for something to read. This person on a whim decided to answer some of the ads. One person wrote back and said because of the age difference they didn’t think it would work. That lasted a few weeks and then a letter appeared with a request that they start writing again. So they did. One had to physically move so it was the one from eastern missouri who did. They were married about 6 months later and as they say “the rest is history”. Well the final chapter of this love story started a few years back with one standing by the others hospital bedside thinking the end was near. In truthfulness it should have been. So they cherish each other each day and fully understand how this story ends when God intervenes again.