It’s somewhat in human nature to judge others based on what your life experiences and outcomes have been for you and when you do you are wrong. We are all guilty of it including me! The key not to being in the judgement business is to try and put yourself in the other person’s shoes. The problem is you can’t and never will be and the sooner you understand that better things will be for you and those around you. I know in my life’s current situation that is extremely complicated and complex there is no way an outsider could ever understand it and for me to expect anyone to understand is on me and not them. The only way that you could ever come close is sitting in judgement of someone else is to have the same dna and life experiences so that takes away your ability to sit in judgement of others.